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Not wanting to be a party pooper, but I'm with Belty. The amount a wedding costs these days could be put to much better use. Like a deposit on house.

 

I've always been of the opinion that a wedding is just a really expensive p*ss up for your mates, which you can't even enjoy yourself because you're too busy making your way round everyone trying to be nice. Spaffing a few grand on what amounts to a piece of paper and a legal claim on your stuff if you die doesn't really strike me as worth it.

 

But that's just me, I'm sure lots of other folks do think it's the best day of their lives and well worth it.

I never believed in it before. my parents were together for over 25 years without being married so never seen the need of it. But sometimes you meet someone who changes the way you think. No disrespect to Belty but given your comments in the cheating thread maybe your not ready yet someday you might be or maybe you never will each to there own.

 

It can be a lot of money I am trying to do it for 5k but I am barely planning anything my partner is but I have watched so much four weddings it's silly

Not wanting to be a party pooper, but I'm with Belty. The amount a wedding costs these days could be put to much better use. Like a deposit on house.

 

I've always been of the opinion that a wedding is just a really expensive p*ss up for your mates, which you can't even enjoy yourself because you're too busy making your way round everyone trying to be nice. Spaffing a few grand on what amounts to a piece of paper and a legal claim on your stuff if you die doesn't really strike me as worth it.

 

But that's just me, I'm sure lots of other folks do think it's the best day of their lives and well worth it.

 

First of all congrats Jay, you seem to have nailed the way to plan a wedding, let her do it all!

 

But this x100.

 

Me and the my other half are at the stage now where everyone around us is getting engaged/married and I'm feeling a lot of pressure to go that way, but I'm holding out. Not because i don't love her but i can think of so much more to do with the money at this stage in our life, like getting a deposit down on a house. That and to myself marriage doesn't mean half as much as it did back even 15 years ago. And this isn't to say I'll never get married, im just fed up of family/friends/the misses asking.

The amount a wedding costs these days could be put to much better use. Like a deposit on house.
If it is just the actual legality of being married, then you can do that pretty cheap if you want to. I guess it depends on which part is more important; the being married or having a wedding to show of to as many people as possible.
No disrespect to Belty but given your comments in the cheating thread maybe your not ready yet someday you might be or maybe you never will each to there own.
I was only kidding, if you want to get married thats great. As for me, I've been with the same woman 15 years, 3 kids, good as married without the cost and the piece of paper so I'm happy as I am. Nothing to do with being ready or not for me, if she said she wanted to get married I'd do it just to make her happy but I'd never suggest it myself, just dont see the need for it personally. But whatever makes people happy is the main thing. Good for you, I hope you have a great day.

 

As for cost etc, the main thing about the cost I hate is having to pay for all your asshole family members you dont like to have a nice meal and free drink. If I was going to get married, I'd bugger off on holiday somewhere, que up for the marriage on the beach thing, pay a few quid, quick and easy on the beach in the sun with the kids then a swim in the sea. Bargain!

I don't like the bind marriage puts you in legally if the relationship ends, it can be (and usually is) vastly one-sided, and that's almost always in favor of the woman, in every single way, to the point where it's ridiculously stupid.

 

If it's for legal reasons, most of those can be cured by a will and a living will.

I don't like the bind marriage puts you in legally if the relationship ends, it can be (and usually is) vastly one-sided, and that's almost always in favor of the woman, in every single way, to the point where it's ridiculously stupid.

 

That's changing dramatically, and isn't entirely true anyway. It favours whoever makes the least money, and heavily favours any stay-at-home parents, it's just that that's usually the woman.

When I got married we just went to the courthouse with maybe three friends and my wife's mom then we went out to eat at the Cracker Barrel. It was my wife's idea. She didn't want a crazy big wedding. I asked her for weeks if she was sure. At one point we almost just went to Vegas. We were gonna go to one of those little fast food type marriage places and spend the rest of the weekend gambling.

 

She was very unconventional though.

We got married in a manor house with an evening reception, buffet food, the dress, suits and pretty much everything for 5K, 5K can get you quite a lot if you are realistic. That said we paid nearly that much again for 12 night in the Maldives as the honeymoon so swings and roundabouts! I wouldn;t not be married now but I wasn't massively fussed about it before it kind of dawned on me that I wanted to.

I'm probably the same as Megs. Being married sounds kinda nice I guess, mostly just because "wife" sounds a bit better better than "girlfriend" when you're older than 40, but I'm not really fussed. If I was with a girl I liked that much, it would be entirely up to her, I think I'd be just as happy either way. Having kids would be the only thing to nudge me either way, I might be slightly put off by the idea of my kid's parents not being married, but I guess that's becoming so common now that it'll be irrelevant by the time I have kids.

 

If I did get married though, I would probably go all out with the wedding. I like a flash party.

 

Pre-nups out my f*cking dick too though.